R. Ray

Adulthood is filled with numerous and necessary examples that require us having to prove ourselves to others. College applications are the first major example soon followed by resumes and eventually your first real jobs.

We are constantly prodded and challenged to prove ourselves and if you expect to be paid well and advance it stands to reason that we must show and constantly validate our worth.

In new relationships, there is also a degree of show and prove. If we want someone else to engage in an exclusive relationship, it is important that we show our value and trustworthiness, particularly when the other person has lots of other choices (#beautiful people, #rich with options).

Eventually, your body of work should speak for itself. Eventually your character and what you bring to the table should be readily identifiable to those that know you. In a professional setting, new situations always dictate having to convince others of your worth, but when you are in settled situations or dealing with others that should know your qualifications and history, it’s an affront to constantly have to explain to others the justification for receiving the credit and/or compensation that may otherwise be standard for others.

Business relationships and situations may be more complicated because there are tons of variables that effect what is defined as fair compensation. Personal relationships also have variables, but it is a far less complicated to understand how important it is to know and understand your worth.

Beyond the initial courting period, personal relationships should not have to involve a constant proof and validation of our worth as people. While we should never rest on our laurels or past deeds in personal relationships, there is a difference in fighting stagnation of our efforts versus questions of our character and worth.

People close to you, or at the very least familiar with you on a personal level, should have an understanding of who you are…your character and worth. You should not have to constantly have to keep proving or validating who you are to those that should already know those answers.

There is an irony that exists in that the people who usually question you and your worth are usually the most undeserving of your continued proof. Whether it is someone you are in a close relationship and really should know better, or more fringe associates that require attention that they should not be given, not everyone is deserving of the time and attention required of validation.

I have recently written about delusional people. The reality is that there are many out there who suffer from grandeur and are unable to give honest self-assessments. For everyone else, it is essential to truly understand, know and most importantly value your worth. It is important to understand who and what situations are deserving of our time and efforts of proof versus those who are undeserving of answers from questioning.

The underserving attempt to monopolize our time. The undeserving try and usurp our financial resources. We should not allow them any of those privileges, but regardless of our generosity, the line must be drawn at allowing the undeserving to question our worth. Providing validation to those that are undeserving is unnecessary and a strong knowledge of worth ultimately contributes to healthier personal interactions and relationships.


#knowyourworth, #worth, #selfworth, #knowledge, #delusion


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