My aversions to manufactured holidays are quite documented (it is estimated that US shoppers will spend nearly $23 Billion dollars for this current Mothers Day, surpassed only by Christmas and Hanukkah), but how can I not make an exception for any day that celebrates women and more specifically all the mother’s out there. Happy Mother’s […]



I have never feared another man (or woman) in my life. This isn’t the beginning of some type of declaration extolling how tough I think I am, but rather I have just never wasted my time worrying about people in relation to my own pursuit of happiness, well being and even safety. Trust I have […]



“Apathy is a trait shared by people who can never figure out why their lives are always in the same stalled position.”  Richard Ray Politics is not a fun topic. Trust me I get it. As someone that felt absolutely disenfranchised by the process, I understand not feeling as if there was anyone out there […]



Anyone that knows me, is aware of my feelings regarding organized religion… I am not a big fan. Do not confuse this with me having any type of disdain for people’s beliefs in whatever gods they worship or a lessing in the importance that religion may have to various people and cultures worldwide. I respect […]



Family: Can’t live with them… Can’t change your name, move and act like you don’t know them anymore… wait you can do that. I was speaking with a client recently and he was lamenting the state of dysfunction within his family. My oversimplified answer was love them and/or leave them, but do not let them make you […]



I owe nearly everything I have become as a man (at least the good parts) to two people: my mother and a man named John Hoffman. My mother did the best in raising me to be a good and productive person, but let’s be real… she kind of had to… John was no kin. In […]



So Mr. Positivity still gets tested on occasion. I am a steady, if not exhausting espouser of maintaining a positive state of mind under nearly all circumstances. Nearly suggests that there are of course exceptions, but short of those, positivity must be maintained. It is often suggested, “that is easy for you (me) to say […]