I am the lead architect, Chief Engineer, El Capitan, HNIC, CEO, Big Dawg, Boss Hogg of all of the Chaos in my life.
Sure, there are other contributors, enablers and facilitators who can share in the credit and/or blame, but at the end of the day all the responsibility for my life’s choices and status stops and starts with me.
I know that appears to be an obvious statement, but don’t assert that it isn’t so much easier to look at others as the primary cause of our woes. Last I checked I am a grown man not being held hostage or blackmailed. Every decision I make and choice I act upon has been made entirely with free will. I would say sound mind, but judging by some of my choices, even I cannot acknowledge the veracity of that statement.
So why the public acknowledgement of the seemingly obvious? Primarily because I thought it may help serve as inspiration to others that coming clean is the first step in correcting most problems. There is something cathartic about admitting things out loud, even if just to yourself. I am not beating myself up or admitting defeat. In fact the opposite is true.
I have taken the necessary steps to move forward and effectively deal with any of the issues or problems. Some could say that I come from a family that hoards chaos, so I get it naturally. Whether I am genetically disposed or not, there are no physiological nor psychological barriers existing that prevent me from changing the course of my behavior and choices.
I own my action. I own who I am. I understand that “life” and its experiences affect our course of thinking, but I have the ability to alter that course through my own actions. Others are not to blame for my choices. They are able to affect and influence only to the extent that I empower them to do so.
Admitting and identifying Chaos in one’s life is merely the first step. Adding chaos to one’s life is simple and easy. Removing it…that’s an entirely different matter. The difficulty often comes because chaos is often associated with complication. Not always of course, but more complicated situations take more time, planning, commitment and resiliency to untangle.
Take a deep breath, develop a plan and tackle the chaos in your life… one element at a time. Do not get discouraged if the knot initially only seems to worsen and get more complicated, just be patient…think it through… and persevere.
I cannot tell you what your individual rewards may be for completing the task. But trust the minimal benefit of clarity of thought and less stress alone are worth it. And don’t worry, less chaos will not equate to boredom. Instead, it gives the freedom to truly open your mind and life to the experiences that can give it more substance and joy.
At the very least it will give you more peace.
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